Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Tuesday Talk #32: Motherhood

I celebrated my first Mother's Day this past weekend. So many thoughts and emotions! From the time I could hold a baby doll, I've wanted to be a mommy. In some ways, it feels like it took forever yet in some ways I can't believe the moment is here.

As I stood for the first time as a mom for the Mother's Day blessing at church on Sunday, I had tears in my eyes.

Our little one kicked and twirled happily inside of me and it was obvious to others that I was a new momma, but my heart was also remembering our first baby. Would I have still stood up for the Mother's Day blessing if baby #2 were not making it's presence known to others? Would people have still honored me as a mom?

I thought of so many of my friends struggling with infertility. The ones who have miscarried multiple times. The ones preparing for surgery. The ones still waiting on their first positive pregnancy test despite years of treatment.

I thought of the years I spent before marriage with PCOS, wondering if my body would be able to conceive a child. My own surgery. The wondering and the waiting. The months after our miscarriage. The new diagnoses. The grief and the hope and the fear and the grace.

I thought of my single friends who would make amazing mothers. The ones waiting on God to send their future husbands into their lives.

I thought of the women I've served at work considering abortion and those who have chosen it. The ones who called us back afterwards with regret and sorrow. How were they feeling on this day, these silent grieving mothers?

And so even as I taste the deepest joy of being the mother of two precious souls, of our beloved Ignatius in heaven and our precious little one growing in me, Mother's Day is still bittersweet for me. I rejoice in being able to celebrate motherhood of both our babies for the first time this year but I hurt for the women who struggle with the day.

And somehow that's okay. As women, we are created by God with the complexity to experience these multiple emotions at once. Grief and gratitude. Sadness and delight. Weeping yet rejoicing.

So wherever you were this Mother's Day-- whether you were mourning the loss of your mom, aching for a child of your own, in the throes of mothering a brood of littles, or simply basking in your family "rising up to called you blessed"-- know that you can feel what you need to feel. Whether it was joy or sorrow, you have permission to feel it. Then look around at the women around you and whatever their situation, feel with them too.

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  1. Beautifully said, Laura! It's such a bittersweet day for me too. It reminds me of what Laura Kelly Fanucci recently wrote about the joy they received when their twins died. There's a light side to the dark, and a dark side to the light. I think that's Mother's Day for many. -Jessica, Sweet Little Ones

    1. Very true. That's a profound thought of light and dark. LKF's writing never fails to stir my soul.

  2. Happy belated first Mother's Day, Laura! This year, I noticed that many people-both in my local community and online-seemed to really be making an effort to recognize all mothers (including those whose children died before birth) which I think is really wonderful and beautiful.

    1. I noticed it a lot this year, too, AnneMarie! I'm not sure if I was more aware and seeing it, or if there is an increase in awareness of all. Good stuff. :) Happy belated Mother's Day to you!!

  3. I love how big your heart is. I am ever so happy for you, undiluted-ly so.

    1. Aww. <3 Can you move to the States so we can be closer? :)